In Vietnam, weddings are one of the highly regarded ceremonies, which are mainly routed in Buddhism and Confucian. However, with the spread of other religions, do not be surprised to have wedding ceremonies that are not purely traditional. You might have attended various weddings that include scuba diving under the ocean water weddings, air weddings as people sky dive or even weddings at the peak of Mount Everest.
However, you might have not seen something more amazing than and as colorful as the Vietnamese traditional weddings! They often have several parts, which include engagement, wedding, permission asking to be given the bride, receiving the bride and much more.
One thing that makes traditional Vietnamese weddings of their own kind are the wedding dresses where women put on the Áo dài dresses which became popular during the Nguyen dynasty. This mode of dressing was popularly worn by women who were at the Nguyen dynasty court and the clothes are made with imperial designs and symbols, especially the phoenix as well as outer cloaks that are a bit extravagant. Common colors used in these gowns are pink or red. Furthermore, the brides are adorned with headdresses. Grooms however wear blue attires that are much simpler.
Before the wedding ceremony, the bride and bridegroom to be are engaged about a half to a year before they get married. Most marriages were arranged by parents only or their children could be consulted at times. However, with the growth in modernity, some children might get people they love and inform their parents of their intention to get married. Whatever the case, what follows next will be the wedding ceremony itself.
When the time for the weddings finally comes, it has a number of important parts that include seeking for permission to be given the bride, receiving the bride, ceremony done at the bridegroom’s home and finally there is a banquet part. These might slightly vary due to modernity where some parts are ignored.
To ask permission for the bride, the groom’s mother goes to the bride’s parents with the gift of betel and asks permission to be given the bride to go to her home. This part was important since in some cases, the bride would have fled away due to the forces that come with arranged marriages. Some parts of Vietnam no longer practice this part.
Once the bride and her parents accept, there will be procession of receiving the bride where ‘best man’ leads the procession followed by the groom’s parents, groom and other close family members and relatives. Huge traditional umbrellas often accompany the front part of the procession. There are various ways people are supposed to be dressed during the processing and should carry highly decorated boxes of lacquer (that had gifts that symbolizes wealth that will be taken to the bride’s family) that were covered with red clothing. Normally, about 20 people are allowed to make it easy for the bride’s family to receive them.
Afterwards, there will be the ceremony of asking for permission from the ancestors at the ancestor’s altars that were found in the bride’s home. This will be followed by speeches, candle ceremony and tea. The procession will then go back to the bridegroom’s home where they will be received with celebration. Another ancestor’s ceremony will be held at the bridegroom’s home before an electrifying banquet party is held at the bridegroom’s house where popular tradition dishes, and some drinks will be served.